Community Living or Why Siblings are good for your spiritual growth

Standard

I was an only child, and homeschooled to boot and believe me, my education was exceptional. My mom was a creative badass who believed that colonial williamsburg counted as history class and grocery shopping built math and kitchen skills. These things have served me well in life, not to mention a serious self-motivated drive. However, life, and my own choices are throwing me another curve ball called “getting along with other people”, and it is a tumultuous stage of growth, and more than a little embarrassing to be going through at good god am I actually closer to 30 than 20? When did that happen?!? Ah, let’s not think about that, anyway, the point is, I choose to pursue a path in life that led me smack dab in the center of the family/community I always wished I’d had and now I’m dealing with both sides of the consequences of that decision.
Dealing with 8 people’s opinions on laundry, basic hygiene, food preferences and don’t even mention the word dishes, is WAAAAAY more complicated than I could have ever previously imagined. I’m finally beginning to understand why people first started going to war. And we don’t even have the background of social expectation/tradition to help us along- it’s all trial and error. Thank goodness all of us are, generally, patient, committed and (thank whatever deity you recognize) pacifists.
But on a personal level, learning how to let go and not micro-manage, be open to new ways of doing things and generally learning to accept that there are people in the world who care about me even dealing with my crazy on a day to day basis (glitter, chocolate addiction, extreme emotional sensitivity which the glitter and chocolate help to medicate) has been a much-needed area of growth and balm to my isolated soul.
When it comes to my romantic relationship, I’ve been learning something else, something that is often said but hard to put into practice in the modern world- That you don’t have to be, and in fact shouldn’t be, everything to one person. Having this community has allowed me to start taking the perspective of, hey, maybe my romantic relationship can be just that- romantic. Since all of the stress of day to day life and major decisions, etc are generally shared amongst the whole community, not to mention hobbies and companionship, it’s much easier to just be romantic love, comfort and fun with my chosen lover. Don’t get me wrong, we still argue plenty, but I feel that I’m finally beginning understand what true day to day romance and connection are, both within an “intimate” relationship and on a wider social level as well.

Photo Update :D

Standard

ImageAaron making a mess in the Workshop tent

I’m taking a short trip down memory lane today. Aaron has been in Santa Fe for nearly a week for his sister’s graduation, and I’ve been a bit lovesick. I even miss arguing with him! So, I’ve been taking comfort with kittens, fantasy books, and repainting the interior of the RV. You know, the simple things.

We had a great trip up to Portland to drop him off at the airport. The flight was for an ungodly early hour, he had to be there before six am, so after showers we recovered at Zoe’s favorite place from the time she lived in Portland, Sound Grounds cafe’. It lives up to it’s reputation as a comfy and eclectic art world. We arrived as a couple of clowns were doing a kids storytime, which was an interesting way to enjoy a late breakfast. I was very impressed with their coffee, tea and food selection. They did a $3 Dave’s Killer Bread egg in a basket with cream cheese that was AMAZING! They also offer a wide variety of activities for a wide range of age groups(there are more than just clowns). My favorite part of the trip was all the roses though. We walked so many streets just drinking in the sight and smell. I saw every kind of rose imaginable, even pink and yellow ones as big as my head!

Image

Of course we were all eager to get back home for kittens and a good night’s sleep after a very long day. The little grey tiger has been adopted by Zoe and Sakka with the deceptive name of “Muffin”, such a sweet name for an increasingly large terror. I adopted the gold tiger kitten, who is bratty enough to befit her name of “Princess”, and Aaron adopted the black one, adoring his mellow nature and little white-dipped tail, and calls him “Alfred”.

Image

Sakka holding the little Muffin of doom(they’ve taken to calling her Bran Muffin)

Image

The greenhouse (pictured above) is thriving, though we had to get ladybugs to eliminate a mild aphid problem. But the echinacea is blooming, the mints threaten to take over, we’ve eaten enough greens to feel like rabbits, and we just got a pile of oils, shea butter and beeswax to make salves out of a number of the herbs.

Image

Zoe outside of one of the Tipi’s

I have been shocked at how comfortable tipi’s have turned out to be. Sakka has been impressive at making it homey for Zoe, putting together a vanity table, and a set of flower boxes outside. The key is to use a broom around the rafters to eliminate spiders, but even that hasn’t been as bad as I expected- and being a first-rate arachnophobic that was a major concern.

Image

Zoe’s first completed knit hat

Zoe has taken to the knitting like a fish to water, but after several attempts and a good deal of improvement, as much as I want to knit, crochet is just more my thing. Maybe I just did it too long first, but either way, I find it significantly more easy than knitting. Momma Pam found a crochet pattern for socks so I could make them for Aaron instead and they turned out to be more than twice as thick in texture, which is what I needed for him anyway, and I can do it in a fraction of the time. Win-win. But I may do some knit lingerie for winter, light, warm and sexy 😉

I’ve been feeling like I’m on vacation, being alone again for the first time in months. Adjusting to such a large family in a short time has left me feeling a little overwhelmed and having a quiet space to retreat too for a few days has certainly helped. I’m remembering why relationships are so important and re-establishing my boundaries. Oh, and painting, lots of painting. And fabric dye, and hanging art, and my will I be busy the next few days!

 

May Carousel

Standard

Enjoy some lovely end of May thoughts!! XOXO!!

 

All your relationship problems solved:

http://theeditorsjournal.wordpress.com/2014/04/07/the-difference-between-men-and-women-very-very-true/

For the Love of Lingerie:

http://en.rocketnews24.com/2014/04/29/what-if-sailor-moon-characters-were-lingerie-models-theyd-look-stunning-like-this-【photos】

True Help for the Homeless, I can’t wait for the rest of the country to follow suit:

http://www.nationofchange.org/utah-ending-homelessness-giving-people-homes-1390056183

As the noose tightens around our freedoms, here is proof that even charity is now a crime, i.e. if you want to help people, your donation must go through a specific or government organization so WE can determine how it’s used, control the money, control it all:

http://thinkprogress.org/economy/2014/05/12/3436712/daytona-beach-feeding-homeless/

From Makeup to ART!

http://upopin.com/tal-peleg-eyelid-paintings/

It’s art, no it’s a landscape, no it’s a photo, no it’s real……

http://www.mymodernmet.com/profiles/blogs/neil-simone-surreal-paintings

Nutrition data, otherwise known as the eat-real-food-and-enjoy-life-because-it-doesn’t-matter-anyway science:

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/05/140512214128.htm

I don’t know which is worse- how much the Pharmacutical industry will charge for a treatment to bypass exercising, or the fact that American’s will pay anything to mot have to live a healthy lifestyle in the first place:

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/05/140512112547.htm

When you’d lost all hope in science and medicine, this comes to renew the world of possibility!:

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/05/140513132703.htm

Paper sculptures!

http://www.mymodernmet.com/profiles/blogs/katharine-morling-ceramic-sculptures

For the Relationship challenged, here are some difficult but renewing truths:

http://markmanson.net/6-healthy-habits

Whole new level of Flower Fairy Fashion 😀

http://www.mymodernmet.com/profiles/blogs/grace-ciao-fashion-illustrations

so much cute!!

http://www.mymodernmet.com/xn/detail/2100445%3ABlogPost%3A1209765

I want this artist to do a mural in my home!!

http://www.mymodernmet.com/xn/detail/2100445%3ABlogPost%3A1235755

Fashion, Art, Cosplay and just downright beautiful!

http://the-dame.com/epic-headwear-posh-fairytail-couture/

What is homesteading exactly?

http://woodridgehomestead.com/rebirth-of-self-sufficiency/to-make-a-homestead/

If you are interested in becoming more self-sufficent and overwhelmed at how, this article is a great start for learning how to take the transition to your own comfort level:

http://newlifeonahomestead.com/2012/10/how-to-homestead/

Zoe and I just started getting super into knitting, this is now the goal:

http://www.mymodernmet.com/xn/detail/2100445%3ABlogPost%3A1235472

Political statement- Photographic proof that we all in fact are just people, what a novel idea!

http://www.mymodernmet.com/xn/detail/2100445%3ABlogPost%3A1205326

Art coming out your ears!

http://www.mymodernmet.com/profiles/blogs/smartwater-10-artists-who-shatter-perceptions-of-reality

For the DIY and environmentally inclined, homemade solar lamps:

http://newlifeonahomestead.com/2012/04/diy-sun-jars-homemade-solar-lights/